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My undying love for Emma Watson will never be quelled. I have looked up to her throughout my childhood years and I still do to this day. And while I respect her ideals of Feminism and HeForShe, I have some opinions of my own.
I have been very disappointed with the cause of feminism, having lost its advocative integrity over the years. I am also a little disappointed with “HeForShe”, because every part of me wishes it were People for People instead. To me, it all seems so one-sided. I know this has been harked many a time by anti-feminists, but men do experience societal injustices themselves, as women do. Women experience these societal injustices as every being in this world is likely to. Isolating it to just one side seems to bring about more conflict and friction than it does remedy the situation. This claim goes both ways, for feminists and masculists alike, vying for the global recognition and acceptance of their ideals and values.
I sometimes like to picture the great dispute between feminism and masculism as one great big, bigoted liberty scale. Feminism on one side and masculism on the other. Every impassioned and uncompromising contribution to either one side tips the scale, allowing the other to fall short. Whichever way the scale leans, one side will always be at a disadvantage. It is here that I would like to point out the extreme nature of the planet we live on. There is hardly a middle ground when it comes to many. And if ever there were a middle ground, it would be overlooked by a great multiplicity. Most things just seem to come in pairs of extremes. Either you’re nocturnal or diurnal, a feminist or an anti-feminist. Would it kill people to be able to stand between the two, impartially but not apathetically? Our modern day endeavor for equality and human rights is a cause that has been appropriated and transformed into a combative strife that perpetuates disparity and inequality. The bellicose, bigoted and hypocritical behaviour exhibited by many on all sides of the feminism (, anti-feminism) and masculism debacle has brought the cause down to an unrecognizable, ignoble level. Instead of being the advocates we all intended to be, we become pugnacious partisans who fight imbalance with imbalance.
In all our thoughtlessness and truculent ways, we fail to look at the big picture in a different light. We fail to see that we are all just people, and we all live in a world where things are seldom ever fair. We harbor silly societal beliefs and abide by an imperfect system that we, imperfect beings in ourselves, created. We are all existing in a world that teems with callousness and tragedy, and we are all trying to survive. The adversity in this world is generous, it does not favor one particular side or one specific kind of individual.
This is my problem with hypocritical causes that are cloaked in a guise that claims to promote equality. If one truly lobbies for equality, why is it that one always manages to alienate the other side in the process? Are we so disillusioned by our entitlement that we forget to open our eyes to the fallacies and universally afflicting injustices that surround all of us? When will we awaken to see the bias we have propagated? When will we understand that woman, man, child and animal are all vulnerable to malady?
The belief that as individuals, we are all entitled to our own share of respect and equality, is noble but not incorruptible. Sometimes our beliefs of individuality are what make us self-absorbed. I believe that when we view ourselves as individuals, we often lose sight of the fact that we are also a part of a collective of sentient beings. We are a part of humanity. And in being so, we are contradictory in the ways that we are unique and yet the same, significant and yet insignificant, kind and yet unkind. While it is not wrong to harbor views and beliefs of individuality, it is the appropriation of individuality that begets entitlement. Consequentially, entitlement forges rifts between the entitled and the parties they believe are less superior. Such is often the case in the disputes between feminism and masculism, as well as feminism and anti-feminism. Each supports its values with such fervor, that they isolate their causes and their own selves included.
Returning to the topic of HeForShe, I reiterate that I so desperately wish more causes were people lobbying for people instead of men lobbying for women or women for women. There is nothing wrong with male support in the pursuit of women’s rights, if anything it is beneficial. However, would it not be nicer to have a freeway that supports humanity as a whole in lieu of a one-way street propagating a cause mostly advantageous to one side? If we stood together instead of standing apart, would that not be more gainful?
As causes do, they encourage us to stand up for something. As people do, we do not stand up for that which does not rouse us. And how can we possibly be roused by something that we cannot empathize with? A cause that supports womens rights and encourages men to do the same in such a way that ostracizes, will have many of its targeted supporters unable to identify with the cause itself. Again, it leans to one side. Again, the message a cause aims to convey to its intended audience is lost and met instead with belligerence and furor.
I respect HeForShe and its values, and I respect that it is fighting in a world where many remain obliviously insouciant and indifferent. However, I feel that this is yet another partisan cause that tips the aforementioned scale to a side, contributing once again to ubiquitous imbalance.
In conclusion, I would like to express that I am not against feminism or anti-feminism. I like to think of myself as “in the middle”, nonpartisan but not indifferent towards the many convoluted causes in our midst. I would venture so far as to say that I am a perfervid supporter of an all-inclusive equality, one that encourages universal compassion, empathy and morality, not exclusive to one side or gender. I support a cause that fights for equality with equality, not a masquerading cause that fights inequality with inequality. Such causes lose their true meaning and their integrity. Such causes blind us to the other inequities and injustices around us that have escaped our knowing in our purblind pursuits of other causes. The Feminist cause takes its root from the many centuries of oppression that women have endured and continue to endure, therefore it has every right to fight for its ideals. However, in this day and age I believe it is futile to fight against discrimination and alienation with more discrimination and alienation. This method of so called activism is one that only leaves us in a catch-22 situation, it is ineffective in the long-run and it does not inspire the synergy that our society needs.
Why spur men and women to singularly adopt the cause of female rights or male rights, when you can inspirit men and women to adopt the cause of equal human rights? Are we not stronger when we stand undivided, and by the many?
I laud Emma Watson for what she has said about female and male suffering at the hands of society, I just fear that this is another cause to be appropriated by the masses. I do not believe it is wrong to fight for the causes that you believe in, be it feminism or anti-feminism. Instead, I wish people would choose their causes with more wisdom, contemplation and understanding. I wish people would choose without bias and stand together instead of apart. Perhaps it is a rather naive whim, but this is what it is in my heart and this is what I wish to convey.
*university voice* unfortunately… we have too much money… so we have to raise tuition so we can build a place to keep all the other money in… so sorry unavoidable